Enough is a choice

Contrary to popular opinion, having enough is not something you can measure with a tape, a weight scale, or the number of zeros in a bank account.

Enough is a choice.

(And so is not having enough.)

It often comes with maturity, experience, or simply exhaustion from constantly chasing the horizon. But it can come earlier if we make a conscious decision that we’re satisfied with what we’ve got.

Deciding that you have enough is not the same as giving up on yourself. You can still improve, advance in your career, and achieve goals — if you have any. (It’s OK if you don’t. Goal-setting is often toxic and, most of the time, overrated.) Good things in life will come naturally, without stress, sweat, blood, and tears. You’ll focus less on results and more on the process. It will feel like magic. And perhaps for the first time in your life, you’ll enjoy the process of living.

Matt Haig once wrote,

“Imagine yourself as a baby. You would look at that baby and think they lacked nothing. That baby came complete. Their value was innate from their first breath. Their value did not depend on external things like wealth or appearance or politics or popularity. It was the infinite value of human life.”

Sometimes feeling enough is as simple as realising that we’ve always been enough. This requires accepting that we were wrong for a long time, which can be painful. But the pain will be compensated by the immense freedom to be yourself, relax, and live guilt-free. All these things are unavailable if you think you’re not enough.