3 Reasons Why You Don’t Have To Wait To Do What You Love
Not in the motivational sense, as if I am trying to push you towards some action. But in the most literal, rhetorical sense. I am curious.
WHAT are you waiting for?
After all, if you’re reading this article, you’re waiting for something. And it’s good to know what’s holding you back from doing what you love.
The sad thing is that most people wait. Some wait their whole lives. Even the so-called “privileged” — the ones that many of us dream of becoming — wait.
Investment bankers wait. Lawyers wait. Bloggers and writers wait. Everybody waits for permission: to stand up, stop doing what they don’t like, and start doing things they have been procrastinating on.
The whole system is designed for you to wait. You go to school and wait to graduate to enter a university. While in college, you expect to get a job. When you get a job, you wait to retire and ‘finally’ start living. Then you get a mortgage, have kids, marry, and waiting becomes even more reasonable than it was before.
Almost everybody waits. It’s a devastating thing to realize.
Only a fraction of us has the guts to say, “fuck it” to other people’s agendas, expectations, fear, and start living the lives we were meant to live. These are the Paul McCartneys and Steve Jobs of the world. And it can be you.
As I recently read (and tweeted),
“What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do.”
It’s simple: people who don’t wait, follow their dreams. And those who follow their dreams, often achieve success. Not guaranteed — but at least, the probability is larger than 0. (Because if you wait, the possibility will always be 0.)
But wrapping your head around this idea is hard. After all, we were brainwashed by society, our own fears, and insecurities that waiting is natural.
So here are three more reasons to contemplate why you don’t have to wait.
1. You’re Already Late
To avoid waking up one day in your seventies and realizing that you’re late to do what you’ve always wanted — imagine you’ve already been seventy and were granted a superpower to return to today.
Now, do it differently.
The truth is, whatever you want to do — write a novel, launch a podcast, start a business, change careers, explore your untapped creative side — you had to start it when you first had the original idea.
That was the best time to start. And now you’re late.
But the next best time is now. So start.
Waiting for the perfect moment is a sure way to never have a perfect moment.
Because there’s no such thing: preparation is fear in disguise.
2. Waiting Is Wasting Time
Seth Godin wrote,
“Waiting is, sort of by definition, a waste of time. But time is scarce, so wasting it is a shameful act.”
Both waiting and worrying are useless (and often go together). Worrying has no output — it’s merely burning energy for the sake of burning energy — and waiting is being still, when you could be active.
Yet, time is our most precious resource. If you are in your twenties and will live to your nineties, your “battery” is already at 70%. You have less time than you realize. (20,000 days. And that’s if you’re lucky.)
You might say, “Yeah, but I’ve waited for so long. I have to save X amount of money or get promoted to Y, and then I’ll start doing what I love…”
There are two things wrong with this.
- You’re bullshitting yourself. (I often do too.) When you reach X amount of dollars in savings, you’ll want to make 10X. And so on.
- You’re right. You’ve waited for so long. Stop.
3. You Owe It To Yourself
I don’t believe in the words “must”, “never”, “should”, and “everyone”. Yet, there’s one thing everybody must do — and should never forget.
It’s living their life.
I used to think that “live your life” is the same as “live an extravagant life”, full of private jet flights, champagne, millions of dollars in the bank. After all, that’s what I want, right? (Not really.)
Your life is any kind of life you envision for yourself, or simply like leading.
Maybe it’s living in the suburbs. Maybe it’s being a writer. Or a blogger. Or a surfer. Or an Instagram-blogger-who-travels-the-world-and-lives-on-brand-sponsorships. It doesn’t have to be anything glamorous if you’re delighted with what you have.
Not everyone has to be remarkable — because not everyone likes to be remarked upon. Greatness is overrated.
But you have to be happy.
You owe that much to yourself.