I see a lot of writers on this platform writing pieces about what this year has taught them. I think it’s a great way to sit still, to recap, and think about where life has led you to this point.
They say in Russia that a smart person learns from other people’s mistakes, and a stupid person learns from their own.
We all learn from life. We learn from experience. Other people’s mistakes can be read about, even witnessed — but the lessons are always yours to discover.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t read about other people’s life lessons. Although knowing what mistakes to avoid in theory won’t save you from making your own in reality, it’ll be easier for you to make sense once you experience them.
You’ll have that ‘a-ha!’-moment, and think back to the time when you read about it.
Disclaimer: This piece is long (very long). One of the longest I’ve written for this platform. I tried to make it short, but ideas and thoughts just kept pouring, so I decided to leave it as it is.
Feel free to save, jump, and skip around as you wish and read it in several attempts.
Without further ado, here are my 19 lessons from 2019. I hope you enjoy it. And thank you for being with me this year. Much more coming in 2020!
P.S. You can also download this post as a PDF eBook here.
1. Money Doesn’t Matter
I used to think it does. In fact, like most young and ambitious men, I used to think that how much money you’ve got defines your contribution to society.
The more money the society treats you with, the more significant the contribution you’ve made. Simple, right?
I was wrong. This year I saw far too many examples of people who have a lot of money yet made almost no contribution whatsoever. They’re just making money for the sake of making some more of it.
When you’re young (and male living in a biased society), money is seen as something noble to pursue. I used to push myself to ‘make money,’ to be a ‘real man,’ provide, etc.
But once you cover your necessary expenses, money stops being a motivator; it becomes a tool. You use it to invest in things and projects you believe in.
I am fortunate that I am at a point where I can invest some of my money into things I believe in. But it’s not that I was born with it, or that I am wired a different way.
It’s a choice.
I refuse to get a job to make money. To me, it’s useless.
Even more useless — killing yourself with work overload to make some extra of it.
To me, money is a by-product of the art I create. It always is.
2. Happiness Is In Simplicity
I’ve done something crazy this year. I’ve spent 45 days recording myself in an Excel spreadsheet and then wrote an article about it. I wanted to understand what makes me ‘tick’ and I wanted to examine my life with a microscope.
I know, “anal.”
If I take away one lesson I’ve learned, it’s this: happiness is in simplicity. Not more of … money/stuff/projects/content/tasks. Rather, it’s about simple pleasures life has to offer.
My best days are the ones where I:
- Do deep work for 3–4 hours (usually, reading and writing)
- Spend a lot of time with people I love
- Spend a lot of time in nature (often, taking long walks or going for a run outside)
And the biggest realization for me was that all of these extraordinary things are free.
3. The Most Important Thing About Success (Sticking To It)
It takes a lot of time. It takes patience. And it’s hard. But not in the way you think it is.
I used to think that success comes to people who work crazy hours. I am not to blame, the media, books, movies — they all portray a picture that any entrepreneur should work 14 hours like Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. Otherwise, they’re losers.
But Steve Jobs is Steve Jobs. Elon Musk is Elon Musk.
And you are you.
I realized this year that you can become whatever you want. You can be anything (But you can’t be everything)
And once you make your choice, sticking to it is the gateway to success. You wake up, and you write. You don’t expect success to come to you in a month, in 3 months, or even in a year. You work — day in, day out.
And you do it for a very-very-very long time.
I realized that the #1 reason why people don’t achieve success in what they want is that they give up too quickly. They don’t allow for the results to blossom. They are impatient.
A rule I’ve created to help you not give up: stick to whatever you’re doing for six months. Don’t think about results, don’t look at the stats, don’t change course, and don’t give up. Just do your work for six months.
And then, after six months, wake up, look around — and decide whether you want to proceed or not.
I’ll bet you’ll be surprised.
4. Stillness Is The Key
Winston Churchill is arguably one of the most interesting people of the past century. He was a writer and a Literature Noble Prize winner. A skilled orator. He painted 500 canvases in his life (more than most professional painters). He loved to lay bricks, and he built his home. He was an investor. Finally, he was one of the best politicians in human history and served as the Prime Minister of Britain during WWII.
He’s done it all.
In many ways, Churchill lived not one, but 5 or 7 lives during his lifetime. And he had to handle a great deal lot of stress too being the prime minister during the deadliest war in human history, losing all of his money (two times) and being ousted out of his positions (three times).
Paul Johnson, the historian, and author of one of Churchill’s (many) biographies tells a story of meeting him.
In 1946, when I was seventeen, I had the good fortune to ask him a question: “Mr. Churchill, sir, to what do you attribute your success in life?” Without pause or hesitation, he replied: “Conservation of energy. Never stand up when you can sit down, and never sit down when you can lie down.” He then got into his limo.
It’s a well-known fact that one of the strongest traits of this spectacular politician is the ability to relax. To let go. To build stillness. He always made sure to have 8 hours of sleep per day, even in the toughest times of his life.
If someone so busy, committed, and influential as Mr. Churchill takes a break, what does it mean for the rest of us? Who are we to think that we can work and be productive without giving ourselves at least some kind of break?
I used to be someone who just wouldn’t let go. I would think about a problem, and I would think about it 24/7, even in my sleep. As a result, I was anxious, tired, and unproductive (although I didn’t notice it then).
This year I’ve read Ryan Holiday’s Stillness Is The Key. It made me think about ways I can incorporate more stillness into my life.
I don’t hesitate anymore. I don’t work myself to death. I don’t kill myself with work. I take breaks. I let go. I relax and allow myself to recharge.
And so should you. Stillness is the key. Thanks, Ryan Holiday, for this lesson.
5. Right Decisions Don’t Always Lead To Good Outcomes
In 2010, right after graduating from Stanford MBA, my father built Wikimart — the Amazon of Russia. They secured a $50M+ investment from one of the leading VCs in the U.S., and by 2013, the company was valued at more than $250M.
He was in charge of a multi-billion company and was living the dream. Forbes interviewed him. Inc. Russia made profiles about our family. We went to Canary islands for a month on a family vacation. I was supposed to go to an expensive college.
I was proud of my dad. Everything was going great.
Until, in 2014, Malaysian Airlines Flight 17 was shot by Ukrainian missiles having all 283 passengers and 15 crew killed. All the political blame went on Russia.
In exactly 48 hours after the crash, my father received a call from New York. His investors told him they didn’t want to deal with Russia anymore, and they were pulling their funding. In 2016 Wikimart went bankrupt.
I saw my father go through this: the sleepless nights, the drinking, the stress of not knowing what to do next, and how to provide for the family. One day, he came home at 11 PM, had 200mg of vodka, went to sleep, and woke up at 3 AM because of the time difference to negotiate with his investors in the U.S.
That same year, my parents got a divorce, and I became the ‘man’ of the family. We had to switch apartments, and I had to accept that my family won’t be as it used to be. I was 16.
For a long time, I blamed my father for his failures. I used to think that he had done something wrong, and whatever happened was his fault and his responsibility.
I mean, it’s true.
But even though you always hold responsibility for the decisions you make, you don’t retain responsibility for the outcomes. As Stoics say, there are things you can control, and then there are things you can’t.
You can’t ever control the outcome. We live in a probabilistic world.
Our brains trick us into thinking that the right decisions always lead to good outcomes.
But if you ever built a decision-tree, you’ll remember it has two types of nodes:
- the decision nodes
- and the probability nodes
You can make the wrong decisions and have a good outcome (this usually reinforces more wrong choices and eventually blows you up). You can also make all the right decisions, but the probability will still fuck you over.
Blaming yourself for all the successes and failures is immature. Right decisions don’t always lead to good outcomes.
The trick is to have enough courage to accept whatever happens.
6. Building a Platform — Is The Highest-ROI Action Right Now
My grandfather (father’s father) is a Ph.D. in physics. Before the Soviet Union collapsed, he used to work at one of the most prestigious Moscow universities.
Me? I hated physics at school (something happened to those genes of mine).
My parents pushed me to go to a maths school (In Russia, it’s like West Point but for math geeks) — where I got all D’s and F’s. It wasn’t I went to college that I realized I love words more than numbers.
But recently, I started re-reading some material on physics and was surprised to find a lot of similarities to life in general.
For example, you learn in mechanics that force is a vector, meaning it always has a direction. And if you want to move an object from point A to point B, and not end up getting to C on accident, it’s crucial that you apply not only the force but also the right direction for that force.
It’s important to ask yourself what kind of direction you want to go. What’s the right point of impact for you — right now.
In my life, this point of impact (or the highest-ROI action, as I call it) is building a platform. There are many possible platforms in life — fame, Harvard diploma, rich-dad trust fund, inheritance, real estate, etc.
I have none of those, so I have to build one of my own.
I believe that when you’re young, investing in building your platform is the best thing you can do for yourself. Not chasing the money, not rushing to marry the Girl, but building a platform for your future (and the Girl’s too).
My platform is my blog. This year I realized that if I spend time, money, and energy into building a blog platform (on Medium and on Telegram — which is where I write in Russian), I’ll be able to anything I want with it. I will have something which any kind of platform will give you — options.
I will be able to make money from my words. I will be able to build businesses with 0 marketing budget. I will be able to promote causes I believe in. And I’ll have the most valuable resource in today’s world — attention.
If you’re young and ambitious, it’s worth thinking about what kind of platform you want to build in your life — and focus on that. Not chasing the ‘quick buck.’
7. It’s OK To Be Yourself
In fact, it may be the best strategy there is.
For far too long, I’ve been trying to ‘fix’ myself. I would look at other people, see what I lacked compared to them, and focus on getting that too.
It’s a road to disaster. Self-doubt. And really, nowhere.
I realized that it’s OK to be myself. To focus on my strengths. To do what suits me. And if I am terrible at Excel spreadsheets (or simply hate them), it’s OK to say, “Fuck it!” and go do something else.
I see this over and over in young people: they look up to some successful entrepreneur or writer and start ‘decoding their secrets to success,’ meaning — they start copying whatever that successful person is doing.
But if you’re trying to copy Mark Zuckerberg or Neil Gaiman, you aren’t really learning from them. You’re copying tactics. If you write with Steven King’s pencil, you won’t write like Steven King.
What they did — is they focused on their strengths, and they didn’t give a fuck where they sucked at.
There are people with all sorts of talents, and we need yours (whatever that is).
You’re a weirdo. Embrace that. Make it work for you. You don’t need to be fixed. You’re already enough.
8. Work Out Not To Look Good, But To Feel Good
This year I went from being overweight and in a really bad physical shape to running a half-marathon (21.1KM). It was fun. But also exhausting.
I used to think you have to kill yourself working out. Work hard; play hard. Eat cold-turkey, and have steel discipline on yourself. Right?
But as I started loving myself more, getting to know myself, and treating myself better, I realized that always pushing yourself beyond the limit is toxic. It’s psychologically bad for you.
Everyone wants to look good, and I am not saying it’s easy. But you know what’s even harder? Loving yourself as you are.
Because once you do, it’ll be much easier to lose weight and to look good. You’ll do it from internal motivation and from the point of self-love, not from the desire to punish or ‘train yourself to pain.’
I no longer kill myself working out. I work out to feel good — to have energy, to feel my body better, and I do only the sort of exercises I want to be doing (usually, running, swimming and yoga).
Try loving yourself more. Try enjoying yourself more. You’ll look better as a by-product, I promise.
9. Doing Nothing Is The Best ‘Productivity Hack’
I don’t like productivity hacks. Tactics. All of that crap. I don’t believe in it.
But if there was one ‘lifehack’ I’ve learned in 2019, it’ll be this one: do nothing.
All human problems exist because one can’t spend 10 minutes in a room by himself
He said that in 1635. Self-awareness is not the new thing on the block.
Doing nothing is hard.
It’s not thinking. It’s not watching. It’s not scrolling Instagram. It’s lying down and doing absolutely nothing. Or it’s walking and appreciating nature and or being mindful when you take a bite of that lunch sandwich.
I used to watch, listen, and read everywhere. If I am walking, I will turn on the latest podcast. If I am commuting somewhere, I will read. If I couldn’t fall asleep, I would watch something on YouTube.
All of this doesn’t give more awareness. It only takes away some.
When all you do is constantly consume content, you lose contact with yourself. What kind of ideas and breakthroughs do we want to happen, if we can’t even hear ourselves think?
There’ll always be another podcast. There’ll always be something you don’t know. There’s too much information to absorb it all, so just get used to it.
You don’t have to stay on top of everything. 99% of it is noise, anyway. And if there’s a signal, you’ll know about it one way or the other.
A couple of days ago, I noticed that I was at my home, all by myself, and I had nothing particular to do. I had the whole evening to myself. It a new experience, and I used to connect to myself. I opened up a notebook and just started writing whatever came to mind. I could actually hear myself think.
Give yourself more mental space to think and hear yourself, know yourself next year. You need it.
10. Work On Your Own Projects
For the past three years, I’ve been working for somebody else.
I’ve been a freelancer, and I’ve led an agency business, and I’ve worked part-time. I worked with clients of all shapes and sizes — big corporations, life coaches, bloggers.
I remember sitting with a fellow entrepreneur a couple of years ago, and he gave me a piece of advice I didn’t forget:
Work on your own stuff. Once you start working on your own projects, everything changes…
I didn’t understand it at that time. What can possibly change? Everyone is in the business of making money; some people just create their own products, while others help them, like me.
But only when I wrote my first book and started blogging on my own dime and time did I realize — that it’s not all about the money. It’s about the art. Creativity. The risk of having your own skin in the game and having all the credit (or blame). It’s about feeling the control over the process and wanting every little detail to be perfect.
You don’t have all of these things when you’re working on somebody else’s stuff, and it makes work shallow and often uninteresting.
The takeaway here is this: work on your own projects. Create something that isn’t there yet. Even if you need to continue working full-time or as a freelancer, try doing something small on the weekend.
Who knows, maybe it’ll turn out to be a full-time job soon enough?
11. Love Yourself More
When we talk to other people, we are (usually) polite. We are kind. We are gentle. We are afraid not to hurt anybody’s feelings on accident.
However, once we start talking to the most valuable person — ourselves — we are extremely cruel. We tell ourselves to shut up. We push ourselves. Some of us even swear at themselves as a way of self-motivation.
And then we wonder why we lack self-confidence.
I learned this year the importance of loving yourself.
It means being more kind and thoughtful. Hugging yourself more (which your body experience as if somebody else did, anyway) and talking to yourself as if you were talking to your own child.
It means not overworking yourself and taking care of yourself on physical, mental, and spiritual levels. It means eating healthy food, smiling more, doing what you enjoy more, and not pushing yourself to do things you don’t enjoy doing.
It’s truly possible.
Exactly one year ago, I suffered a series of severe panic attacks. I spent the next few months recovering, trying to understand what I am doing wrong with some help from psychotherapy. It turned out I was exhausting myself with work, commitments, and obligations.
This year, I slowly learned to treat myself better. To work less, but more productively. To be happier. To be calmer and less anxious.
How many times have you blamed yourself for doing something stupid? Loving yourself starts with forgiving and accepting that yeah, we aren’t always perfect. And that’s fine. Everybody is stupid occasionally.
If you don’t love yourself, why do you think anybody should?
12. Accept Who You’re Not (To Know Who You Are)
This year I made my first public webinar. In fact, I sold my first webinar, and I’ve made my first $100 blogging. Yay!
The webinar was about knowing yourself and figuring yourself out (I would post a link, but it’s in Russian, sorry. I’ll make one in English some other time). I talked about various instruments and approaches to self-awareness and self-knowledge, including MBTI, self-help books, my own tools, etc.
But I completely forgot to say something that I believe worth saying to anyone searching for their place in life. It helped me a lot, so I guess it might be valuable to you too.
To know who you are, you first have to accept who you’re not.
Accept what you can’t do (or won’t do) — and you’ll eliminate certain areas of life. Gradually, through the process of elimination, you’ll be left with only the stuff that fits you.
For example, you hate working at the office. Cross it off. Only freelance and business will do. Next, you hate numbers. Good, cross it off. Now you know that you potentially might love writing for a living. Try it out. So on, so forth.
Beware, though, because this approach requires some serious self-awareness. There are people who think they can do anything — good for them. But this is not about what you ‘can do,’ it’s more about what you can become great at.
Because that’s the only thing worth dedicating your time to, you’ve got to become #1 and be the best at what you do to survive. It doesn’t have to be something grand, and it can be very niche.
And knowing what you’re not — is a good way to figuring what you are.
13. Don’t Be Vulnerable For The Sake Of Being Vulnerable
This one is for writers and bloggers. But I guess if you’re reading Medium, you might be somehow interested in those things, so it’s OK.
The most popular type of posts on Medium is about how to become successful in Medium. That’s obvious; everybody wants to make money with words and live on Bali.
And if you read 5–10 different articles that go like “How I Made a Gazillion Dollars on Medium This Month” (I know, I am guilty, I wrote one like this a month ago myself) — you’ll see the same piece of advice over and over: be vulnerable.
But I think that vulnerability is overrated.
Don’t get me wrong; I believe that writing should connect your readers to you. It has to resonate with them. And by being human, by showing your insecurities — you might be able to resonate with people who are in the same spot as you’re.
However, too often than not, people are vulnerable for the sake of being vulnerable. They use it as a tactic.
Some people say that writing is therapy. Maybe. But I think that’s a selfish approach. Writing is a service to your readers. Your job as a writer is to drive a point home, to transmit a valuable idea from your head into the heads of your readers. And you use examples (like your own vulnerable stories) to connect with your readers.
If your vulnerability is out of place and doesn’t help or illustrate a point you’re trying to make, it’s useless.
Here’s a message to existing and aspiring writers: don’t turn your blog into an emotional strip club. Don’t undress your soul in public for the sake of vulnerability.
Oh, and don’t listen to other writers’ advice (see the irony here?). Nobody knows how to become successful on Medium, or a writer for that matter. Everyone is just making their best guess.
Write what you think, and how you like. Find your own voice.
14. Make The Jump
This year was big for me because I’ve made several jumps — big and small. Figuratively speaking, of course (not jumping jacks or anything like that).
The small jump I’ve made at the beginning of the year was to try to live in Italy for a month. My girlfriend and I were sick of Moscow (being here during the winter is like visiting hell, although it’s cold hell) — and we desperately needed the sun.
So we tried it. It was fun. I learned a lot about working remotely. I also learned never to go to Sicily again, but that’s for another time.
A few months after that, I made my second jump — I wrote a book. It took me ten months to gather material, shoot the video interviews for my YouTube channel, and four more months to assemble the interviews and write the actual thing.
I had some doubts, like — how am I to write a book? Who would read a 21-year-old author? But I said, ‘Fuck it!’ and wrote the goddamn thing. It turned out to be a great experience, and even though ~100 people have read it, it built my confidence.
I was now a real writer. I mean, wow!
A few months after that, I made my BIG jump. I decided to try living in London with my girlfriend, who goes to college there. I said, ‘Why not?’, organized my work so that I could be remote and just bought a one-way plane ticket.
It turned out to be one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life (after quitting college, of course).
It gave me Medium — which changed my life and became the much needed creative outlet. It also gave me an understanding of what I want to do in life, where I want to live, and I generally became more self-aware as a result of living abroad.
The takeaway here is this: sometimes, you’ve got to make the jump. For someone like me, who likes to control things, this is uncomfortable. So I know how you feel. But I also know that it’s OK not to know how things might work out.
Sometimes you just need to believe in yourself and that it will all turn out to be OK. Sometimes you need to take that risk. Trust yourself. Close your eyes.
15. Focus On The Process
As an intuitive introvert (INFJ), I live in my head. I always think about the future, I plan ahead and can get lost in my thoughts. So living in the moment, being mindful and present is a real challenge for me.
I can’t say that I became great at it, but I definitely started to notice things more this year. I am slowly teaching myself to live in the moment and enjoy the process.
It came to me when I did the following thought experiment a couple of months ago. I asked myself, ‘What if I achieved everything I wanted?’ and then I listed out the things I want:
- $15M+ in the bank
- Great house in the woods and by the sea
- Five written NYTimes bestsellers
- A loving family that I care deeply about
- 150K followers on Medium
So on, so on, so on…
For a moment, I imagined that I have all of those things. I felt having them. I was thrilled. But then almost immediately, I felt emptiness. Sadness.
I felt sorry for the 21-year-old me, who is killing himself, achieving all of these things.
I felt sad for missing out on life, not looking around more, not spending more time with my family, and not being present more.
I felt regret for chasing success when I could have all of it — may be a little later — but I could enjoy the process too.
I felt empty because I now had no purpose in life. I’ve achieved it all, now what?
We tell ourselves that we have to close our eyes and ‘exist’ now for the sake of living someday. I don’t buy into that. I think that we can start living now, and we can enjoy our lives. And still, achieve success.
Once I realized that there is nothing in achievement, and it’s all about the process, my whole thinking changed. I started noticing when I told myself internally, ‘just wait for a while, and everything will be OK in the future’ — I realized it was a lie.
Life is NOW.
Not in some distant future, when you achieve everything you want. Like someone (Hemingway? Shakespeare?) said:
It’s good to have an end to journey towards, but it is the journey that matters in the end
16. Stick To What You’re Already Doing
People like to make resolutions — yearly, weekly, even daily.
I’ll start tomorrow. Next year. Next month. On Monday.
But if you need a certain date to start doing what you need to be doing, chances are, you won’t do it. You won’t stick to it.
In that sense, the best time to start is now, 9:54 AM, on Tuesday. Or as soon as you finish reading this article. Just do it, Nike says.
I also think that creating new projects for yourself is highly overrated. And sticking to what you’re already doing is highly underrated.
I mean, I understand, it’s boring to stick to something you’ve been doing for a while. Our generation is all about starting things.
Finishing is so rare; it’s almost a superpower.
When you make resolutions in December and tell yourself all these things you want to start doing next year, you’re disrespectful to the things you’re already doing.
I say, don’t start anything new. Make one resolution for next year: finish what you’ve started. Stick to it.
Get it over with. Get it done. Deliver.
17. When You Love Yourself, You Start Loving Others
I used to think that I don’t know how to love other people. I didn’t know what love is. I listened to “I Want To Know What Love Is, I Want You To Show Me” on repeat (I am kidding).
And this year, as I started treating myself better, I noticed something. I stopped judging others. I stopped having negative thoughts about other people.
It turns out that the internal monologue you have with yourself — is the same you have with other people. You can’t be good to yourself and mean to others.
I am ambitious, and I used to push myself to achieve more, more, and then some. As you can imagine, I treated others the same way. If someone didn’t do something on time, I would be angry (as I would be angry with myself in the same situation).
There’s only one type of relating, and you use on everyone: yourself and others. When you talk kindly to yourself, treat yourself as you would your own child, you approach other people the same way.
So if you see a mean person (an asshole), treat them with compassion. They don’t love themselves. They are lost. They have it worse than you think, so being angry at them would make it worse.
Love yourself, and you’ll love others more.
18. Self-confidence Is Trusting Your Own Decisions
Imagine you’re standing in line for a concert ticket. There are two more lines, on the left and on the right. The line on the right starts moving faster. You notice that. You look around and make your way to that line. You congratulate yourself on saving time. Good job.
But then something happens. The ticket lady switches, and the middle line, the one you were standing in, started to move faster than the one you’re standing in now. You get angry.
What’s this about?
People talk about building self-confidence. Everyone wants it. Everyone wants to know what they’re doing, and do it well.
But was, is self-confidence? In essence, it’s nothing more than self-belief — belief in your own self and in the choices you’ve made. Confident people make decisions and trust them. They don’t waver.
Unconfident people hesitate and switch back and forth between lines.
The funny thing about your body is that not only does it behave the way your brain thinks, but your brain also gets to be changed by your body behavior. It works both ways.
You’re happy, so you smile. But you can also smile and be happy. Few people know that. No thanks needed.
The same thing with confidence. If you want to become confident, you’ve got to learn to trust your decisions. And to do that, you’ve got to stick to whatever you’ve decided.
Picked a line? Stick to it.
19. A Great Partner Is The Best Lifehack Nobody Told You About
I never understood people who don’t get into a relationship because they think it’ll make them less productive. It’ll definitely make them less selfish but productive?
I love the fact that I am in a serious relationship — and we’re so young. This means that we can get a lot of time to enjoy each other’s company. It also means that my girlfriend sees me for who I really am because I have nothing yet to hide in.
And I am crazily more productive.
I don’t know about you, but I find no satisfaction in doing something for selfish reasons. I mean, I like to buy myself a cool piece of clothing. But I love giving gifts more. I like to eat out at restaurants. But it’s way more fun and satisfying if I have someone to share the experience with.
There’s no fun in having success if you don’t have anybody to share it with. And if you don’t achieve success, at least you’ll have fun together.
This involves friends, family, and life partner.
If you find the right partner, you’ll become stronger. Together, you’ll be 1+1=3. You will laugh together; you will travel together, go through hard times together, and support each other. You don’t have to do the same things, and you don’t have to like the same stuff.
The key is to be connected to core values and principles. And if that’s set, your life becomes very fulfilling.
In many ways, I won a lottery ticket when I met my girlfriend 2.5 years ago. I’ve had some relationships before, and I know how rare it is to meet the person who compliments you on every aspect of life and really gets you.
And I am someone who’s really hard to get, you know.
This is the last, and I guess the most important lesson that 2019 has taught me: Having the right life partner by your side is the best thing that could happen to you.
As always, thank you for reading. Thank you for being with me.
Happy New Year.